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I know I haven’t posted much lately but things have been quite interesting for me of late.  In a nutshell, I broke my knee again and have been stuck on the couch.  For the most part, I’ve been trying not to slip into the void of depression at the edge of this rut.  Things are good though, worry not for me but for those in your life who are falling into that void.

Depression aside and out of the way for me, I shall get back to writing here and boy have I got a topic for today.  That last post I guess is a good indication of the stress and depression that was engulfing me but I am out of it.  On to the good news.

So last night my wife and I became Uncle and Aunty once again as my Sister in Law gave birthto a baby boy.  =)  We’re so happy to have another addition to our family.  Well the family.  As for our family, well we thought George The Third would be our third and final child.  So we thought but I’m getting ahead of myself.

What does it mean to be a Dad?  I have seen the placards, the pictures and quotes of being a sperm donor as opposed to being a father and I agree with all of them.  Ejaculation is all that is required for a guy to become a Father but it takes love, sacrifice, love, time and commitment to your family (Mom and baby) in order for you to be considered to be a father.

The best thing a Father can do for his child is to love his Mother.  Nice saying and it holds so much truth.  I won’t get into which is better when it comes to the nuclear family unit and the single parent unit because love is at the base of both of those and that is enough.  However as the first line of this paragraph states, I feel it is important for both parents to be involved in the growth of their child.  That means being a Dad and a Husband guys!  Suck it up, your single life that you cherish will not last and you will regret leaving what you have chasing something you will never get.  Trust me.

Still, there is nothing that compares n my mind to hearing from your wife that you wil be a Dad again and YES!  We are expecting again.  =)  I cannot explain the depths of happiness that I drew from or the expanse of joy that I found myself in when she told me that she was seven weeks pregnant.  I had kinda known that she may have been but didn’t want to put any pressure on her.

This will be baby number four for us and we’ve been through a lot in our 17 years together; the last ten in marriage.  When she told me that we were expecting again I was so happy that I smiled for the rest of the evening.  I’m smiling as I type this and will probably smile every time I read it.  LOL

That in a nutshell is what it means to be a Dad.   I know, kinda cryptic but at the same time so simple that it borders on the absurd.  Fatherhood should be a manual full of things to say and do and when and how and all that jazz but not something that makes you smile.  But that is what fatherhood is.  It is something that makes you smile.

I learned early on that every child is different, that they will grow and progress at their own speed.  This makes it difficult to say with any certainty that you will have the answer to your childs every questions and boy will they ask a TONNE of questions early on.  =)  Fatherhood for me is being there and loving my wife so that my sons will learn that.

There is no easy answer to the question of what does it mean to be a Father other than just smiling at the person who asks me.  =)

My wife and I are expecting our fourth child and I could not be any happier.  I love you Heather.  <3